Thanks for explaining - that sounds profoundly helpful. The closest I've come to reading about that kind of thing is Marion Woodman's BodySoul rhythms approach. Yes 13 years and still dreaming about the ex in various scenarios, though its now once a month or so and not multiple times a week. When I was participating in your discussion of Jung's view of compensation I wondered whether she always appeared as herself, or is a cypher. Tricky to know.
A break up after 23 years, utterly devastating provoked extremely vivid dreams that continued from 2010 to this day. After about 5 years of them I got really frustrating thinking 'I get it, she's gone, you don't have to keep telling me that', but in the last year or so they've started to change. It like knowing that its over 'inside' the dream and my dream self seems to have more resilience. But in the immediate aftermath of the breakup I can see that they were compensating against my hope that she would come back, by insistently showing me that it was completely over. So it was an insight I didn't particularly want to have but the dreamworld never stopped telling me. I was interested in your comment on getting somatic help within therapy. I wondered if you could explain a bit more about what that looks like, but if its private, then of course, no need to comment.
Hello, I haven’t listened to the episode yet, but the thesis prompted something in me! I split with my partner yesterday night, it was initially amicable, but turned very sour, largely on her part, but I did little to “not engage” after a few hours of silence.
It ended up being a very intense break up, with me being blocked on everything. I went to bed relieved but understandably upset. I don’t particularly remember the dream as I didn’t feel the urge to write it down after waking, but I have remnants spurred by your post.
In my dream I am with a park ranger that feels like a forest guardian old lady or something. She’s telling me about how things are done there, and I know she is from my now ex’s forest community. I keep thinking that I shouldn’t be here, we are broken up. The forest guardian tells me more rules about the forest here, very matter of factly and when she talks about the bear I get annoyed, because the bear doesn’t mean the same thing back in my community’s forest. I know there is a large brown bear watching us as this is happening and before anything happens I’m forced awake by my roommate.
Thanks for explaining - that sounds profoundly helpful. The closest I've come to reading about that kind of thing is Marion Woodman's BodySoul rhythms approach. Yes 13 years and still dreaming about the ex in various scenarios, though its now once a month or so and not multiple times a week. When I was participating in your discussion of Jung's view of compensation I wondered whether she always appeared as herself, or is a cypher. Tricky to know.
A break up after 23 years, utterly devastating provoked extremely vivid dreams that continued from 2010 to this day. After about 5 years of them I got really frustrating thinking 'I get it, she's gone, you don't have to keep telling me that', but in the last year or so they've started to change. It like knowing that its over 'inside' the dream and my dream self seems to have more resilience. But in the immediate aftermath of the breakup I can see that they were compensating against my hope that she would come back, by insistently showing me that it was completely over. So it was an insight I didn't particularly want to have but the dreamworld never stopped telling me. I was interested in your comment on getting somatic help within therapy. I wondered if you could explain a bit more about what that looks like, but if its private, then of course, no need to comment.
Hello, I haven’t listened to the episode yet, but the thesis prompted something in me! I split with my partner yesterday night, it was initially amicable, but turned very sour, largely on her part, but I did little to “not engage” after a few hours of silence.
It ended up being a very intense break up, with me being blocked on everything. I went to bed relieved but understandably upset. I don’t particularly remember the dream as I didn’t feel the urge to write it down after waking, but I have remnants spurred by your post.
In my dream I am with a park ranger that feels like a forest guardian old lady or something. She’s telling me about how things are done there, and I know she is from my now ex’s forest community. I keep thinking that I shouldn’t be here, we are broken up. The forest guardian tells me more rules about the forest here, very matter of factly and when she talks about the bear I get annoyed, because the bear doesn’t mean the same thing back in my community’s forest. I know there is a large brown bear watching us as this is happening and before anything happens I’m forced awake by my roommate.
I have an image that appeared in my dream & the next day it arrived at my door in the waking world !
I’m accompanied by a black cat 🐈⬛ and although everyone almost say it’s jinx or bad luck , to me this cat is a strong ally .
She is helping me cross over a bridge from my family
House into the unknown .
She gives me comfort this eclipse , oh boy dreams are really intense .
Thank you for this work Alyssa 🕊🐆