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I so appreciate this as a resource, thank you! Step 2 offers such an excllent framework, something I really need in this moment. Also tucking it away as a generative fiction exercise :)

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Such a helpful way to break down working with parts or complexes which makes it all feel so much less overwhelming. Your personal example was very helpful to illustrate it (and a bit familiar too, heh).

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Dec 25, 2023Liked by Alyssa Polizzi

This post has given me much to think about and work with. I thought the way you were able to arrive at the caretaker through the persecutor was very perceptive. I hadn't thought about caretakers before but it struck a chord, I can see how this figure is 'alive' in my life too. Currently I'm aware of how I readily override my own intuitions in favour of meeting the perceived needs and desires of others. Sometimes, this has profound effects (e.g. a marriage I knew I didn't want when I was 18, but fell into because of things my mother said, and my religious leader). There have been other momentous moments - and the pattern repeats. No more, I write in my journal. But how ... how to find the strength to listen to one's own conviction and then be brave enough to choose oneself when a strongly evangelical upbringing teaches you to lose self in service of others. I don't know what name to give this complex. Its not a caretaker thing, but what you wrote stirred this up for me. There's such helpful advice in your post on how to think about complexes - their facets, feelings, textures. It links well with your latest post about finding a symbol. Thank you. I might often be late responding to a discussion, but its being listened to and taken in.

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